“10 Things to know before loving someone who is independent” by Jonin Marie Gargoles

She’s driven. She’s always been someone career and goal oriented and often puts those things before relationships. And will motivate you. She’ll make you want to do more and be a better version of yourself. She’ll make you want to be the best man you can be because you’re standing next to her. She believes in herself.She doesn’t take no for an answer. When it comes to achieving things, she’ll always find a way. And she’ll believe in you. Even if she’s the only one in your corner, if you tell her you want to do something, she’ll help you get there. That’ll be important later when the big things come along and you want to take risks. She’ll have your back and will always be loyal. She’s not looking for you to have it all together. It’s okay if you’re still figuring out your life and what you want. Chances are she’s figuring it out also. She’s willing to be a part of your struggle. If there’s one thing strong girls know about are success stories first start with failing. So you come out together on top.
1. She will not trust you easily
Gaining her trust is quite difficult because she don’t share everything about herself. She’s very mysterious to you because she wants to make sure first if she can trust you or not. At first she will not tell her deepest secrets to you because she’s going to be careful of anyone new who enters her life because a lot of people have come and left. One simple advice just be patient loving her.
 2. She learned to only trust herself
She is very independent. Relying on others in the past led to disappointment. She knows if she wants anything done right to rely on her doing it. She’s become her own best friend. She’s become her own best company. She’s become someone strong enough to stand alone and learn to like it.She knows the only person she needs is herself.
3. She’s afraid of being vulnerable.

She’s afraid of someone seeing her weak. She’s afraid to cry in front of other people and may think she’s helpless. She’s afraid of someone getting to know her so well, suddenly she doesn’t remember a life without them. She’s afraid of getting too attached with someone so she tries not to.


4. She love to travel alone.

She is very adventurous and not afraid to travel random places around the world. She is always the person who is happy go lucky. She could drink a cup coffee at the Starbucks, eat in a restaurant alone or watch movies in the cinema alone. She’s fiercely independent and always enjoy her alone time.


5. She’s probably dated a lot in the past but she always say no for a relationship

She won’t tell you about it for a while. But every story and every heartbreak would make you understand why she is wired the way she is. She doesn’t want sympathy, she doesn’t want pity but she’s been through a lot that has made her guarded and rough around the edges. It’s not like she doesn’t get asked out or people don’t ask for her number but she pushes a lot of people away. She rejects even more of them. When her friends ask her why she’ll make up some excuse but the truth is she’s scared of broken relationships. So if you’ve made it this far, proceed with caution. Don’t push her in any way. Do everything at her pace.

6. She is very frank 

She don’t give a F***. She is honest to you 100%. She will tell you what she feels, what she like or  hate. You could read her facial expression whether she is mad,sad,shy or happy. Sometimes you will be offended because she will express her true feelings and opinions. She don’t like hiding things from you.


7. She is a warrior of her own life. 

She’s used to dealing with things on her own. The aspect of emotionally relying on someone is foreign to her. Her strength is almost a flaw in a way. You want to get into her world even the bad parts but there’s always gonna be walls and layers to her. She is a fighter you may not see it but behind her mask is a warrior full of flames with hopes and dreams.  If you get to know her true personality you may probably could say she’s courageous because she don’t give up easily. If she loves you please don’t give up on her because she will never leave you hanging. She’s a keeper and warrior.

8. She’s just afraid of relying herself to someone.

It’s human to need people but she perceives that as weakness.She don’t want to rely all things to you. She don’t want to abuse your kindness and love. She’s not after for your money or any possessions you have in life. She can stand of her own feet. She’s afraid to ask some help from you because she don’t want you to worry. She doesn’t need you in her life but she might want you to be there. She’s learned to not need anyone and to be honest, that’s one of the scariest things for a strong woman to learn. But even strong people need others sometimes.


9. She seems kind of hard to love.

If I can let you in on a little secret the best people in life usually are strong people. But once you figure her out she’ll love you harder than anyone. She’ll change you in the best way possible redefining what you thought love could be and you’ll realize the best people to date are ones who usually have a strong heart.

10. She’s strong because she’s been weak before.

You might even be intimidated by her a bit. Because she’s been weak in the past. If there’s one thing her past has taught her, it’s she’ll never again let someone treat her badly or knock her without getting up and fighting. She might come across like she doesn’t need anyone and she might push you away, the truth is the only person she’s learned she can rely on is herself. But she wants you. Consider it a compliment if a strong girl likes you, she’s selective in who she chooses because she knows what she deserves and doesn’t settle. She wants to trust you. Strong girls are ones who were built from the bad things that have happened in the past. She wants to believe you have good intentions. She’ll hate herself for breaking down. If there’s one thing she’s good at is hiding moments of weakness. But in time, you’ll see her fall a bit. When she’s in tears crying it will be then you have to hold her and be her strength. But you’ll love her more for it. She looks at herself as weak in those moments and will apologize. But you’ll look at her as human and fall in love with her.

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